Harry asked, “Where do you want to go to dinner? I think we need our place tonight.”
I agreed. Yesterday was a bad day.
I could detail it all out but that would be boring and frankly I don’t want to relive the details. Suffice it to say things were broken. Big things like cars and computers and bodies. All of it had me worried and stressed. And on top of that I was busier driving all around Southern California trying to make appointments in traffic. All the while hoping my computer would be ok, hoping my car wouldn’t leave us stranded somewhere and wishing the doctor had not told me I had abnormal test results.
So we left the mess on the kitchen counters, the mail in a pile that has grown since before my trip to New York, and we drove to our place.
After a few minutes and a few hugs I was good and smiling again. I just let go of it all. We downloaded the snapchat app and started snapchatting my daughter and laughing and hugging and before I knew it…I was ok.
He said, “You are an athlete.” I said, “What do you mean?”
He said, “Your sport was hurdles and you really do them well. They were big and in your way and you jumped over them. You don’t let them get in your way. You just pick yourself up and you keep going.”
And I smiled cause he is right. Things don’t get me down for long. I do get tired and I need to regroup but once I do, I’m in it to win it again.
“I don’t brood.” I say.
He agreed. We smiled and hugged again. God has given me this man to help steady me in rocky waters. I know this. I thank Him everyday.
Yesterday’s bad news changes what you have to do but it shouldn’t break your spirit. Especially when you know that God loves you and has given you lots of tools and people to help you along the way.
I have a friend from high school who has what will likely be terminal cancer. He is 46 and was married for the first time 6 months ago to the love of his life who has 4 children. The grace he’s shown through this ordeal is amazing. I’m sure he has moments of despair but he also has a hope in him that is impressive. Hope that he will see a miracle and realizing that if he dies and goes to be with Jesus in heaven that in and of itself is miracle enough. Forgiveness and acceptance from a perfect and holy God is more than he would ask for and yet he is able to ask even more. For healing. He’s already seen his life healed. He accepted Christ into his life only two short years ago. He’s lived without Jesus and his experience living with Him has changed him from the inside out. So he knows miracles can happen.
I have that same hope, so when I have bad days I remember that I’ve already won.
The big picture is already taken care of…now it’s about the details of life. What can I do? LOTS! Don’t sit there and cry about it. Get up and get to work.
I mean, if you were playing a football game that you already knew 100% that you were going to win….would you panic when the other team gets a touchdown? Or a teammate gets injured? No. You’d deal with it and move forward with confidence.
So while I react to bad news, I don’t let it get the best of me.
I’ve learned in life to accept, absorb, and then adjust.
Don’t fight reality.
Accept it. It’s a waste of energy to fight the acknowledgment of obvious truth, facts, and evidence. Be realistic.
Allow the truth to sink in.
This is the hard part because lots of times that truth is either hurtful or scary. But there is no way around this one. You have to understand what it means to your life so allow yourself time to think about it enough so that you have sized it up.
Once you understand what you are dealing with then you can decide how to deal with it. How does this change things? Knowing the big picture helps. Who am I? I am Christ’s bond servant. I belong to Him. How does this change that? It doesn’t. How should I respond? In whatever way glorifies Him. Panic? No. Cuss out the world? No. Lose faith? No. Hurt the person that hurt me? No. Cling to His strength and promises, and the hope of heaven? Ah…yes.
I could lose everything in this world but I will still have that. Knowing that gives me a peace that surpasses understanding.
So I leave you today with this…one of my favorite passages in Scripture. And an exhortation to all of you to exercise your faith when things are tough. That is where the training and transforming occurs.
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Put it into practice. It’s not good enough to just think about it. Now do it. Get off the ground, stop wallowing and move forward confidently in the right direction toward what is pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy with thanks.