Who I Was – vs -Who I Am


Today the Gallup Organization called me and asked if I would participate in a survey.  I’m a sucker for surveys so I said, “Why the heck not?”  They asked me things like was a satisfied in my job and did I feel my boss created an environment of trust.  If I was satisfied with my health and where I lived, and how easy or not it was to get services, food, medicine.  When she asked if I was generally satisfied with my life and asked how much I smiled or laughed in the last two days something started to dawn on me.  With each and every question I answered I realized something.  Something wonderful.

I AM HAPPY.  I am a happy person!  I am content with my life just as it is.  SATISFIED.  I feel secure, healthy, fulfilled, and safe.  Wow.  Wow.  Wow.

I knew I was excited and happy about Martin in my life.  It has been the greatest gift to me I have ever received.  A man plucked out of obscurity to become my hero.  My best friend and my love.  I knew that was big.  But what I didn’t realize or maybe haven’t been focused on are all the other aspects of my life that have improved.  SO MUCH is better than it was 4 years ago.  I go back 4 years because that is BEFORE all the hell started.  It’s before the angry phone call, before I knew about the betrayal.  It was when my life was on track.  And all this time I’ve been describing the “before” part of my life as generally happy.  But now that I have some distance I really don’t think I was happy at all.  And that surprises me.

It’s hard to argue with stats though.  Here are the facts of my old self vs. my new self.

Eating
2007 – weight 135, ate two large meals per day with snacks in between.  Lots of pop (at least 3 cans per day).  Lots of fatty, fried, and fast food. Completely sedentary.
2011 – weight 112, eat waaay lighter, only when I’m hungry.  Drink mostly cranberry juice with Pelligrino.  Lots of fiber, fruit, and fresh take out.  Regularly exercise.

Free Time
2007 – watched lots of TV, window shopped, watched lots of movies, took pics
2011 – watch only shows I record, only go shopping when I need to buy something, still watch lots of movies, read more, take less pics, go on hikes or runs.  Oh and talk to Martin.  Oh and blogging. (I have a lot more free time nowadays).

FUN Time
2007 – strained dates with husband, family gatherings, going to the movies.
2011 – dancing, karaoke, world travel, playing pool, going out with friends, doing anything with Martin.

Work
2007 – juggled a fast-paced high-stress management position, worked long hours, was away three nights per week, was on-call the rest of the time.  Did not feel appreciated.
2011 – work from home in a low stress job making the same money, home every day and every night.  Able to take off work when my kids need me. Feel completely appreciated.

Health
2007 – Had out of control Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis and the symptoms that went with it, high cholesterol, depression, insomnia that I tried to control with over the counter meds.
2011 – Thyroid is normal, depression is gone, I am now going to sleep every night without a pill.  I think I still have the high cholesterol though but who knows? Maybe that’s gone too?

Relationships
2007 – Knew my husband was pulling away didn’t know why, seldom did anything with friends or family, was generally lonely.
2011 – Have a man who loves me for me, friend pool is growing, generally satisfied even though my guy lives 6000 miles away.

Overall
2007 – Scared, worried, fearful, lonely, but hopeful
2011 – Brave, trusting, loved, hopeful, but still a little fearful that my new found happiness will disappear.

Outlook for Future
2007 – Feared my husband was having an affair, was planning a cruise to reconnect.
2011 – Planning on marrying the sweetest, closest friend I’ve ever had. Honeymoon in Paris.  Then lots and lots of normal days.

WOW.  That is all I can say.  WOW.  WOW.  WOW.

6 responses to “Who I Was – vs -Who I Am

  1. Oh my goodness. When you see my blog that I think I posted at the same time as yours, I hope you smile as I did when I read yours and see the similarities. I am happy too. I don’t have a love as you do, but I have so many new people in my life that I love, even two men that would love to wait for me to pick them when I’m ready. I’m ok. In my blog I wrote today I asked people to thank those who got them to their healing places. Thank you. That first time you wrote for me the answers to my questions carried me through so much. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Even though I didn’t want to believe it all, I knew that everything you wrote was true. Sometimes just facing the truth helps us to go forward. Praise God for you and again, thanks for taking the time out to reach out.

    • I’ll catch up on my reading this weekend. And you are very welcome. Amazing how God uses technology to help us. Crazy life – – you never know what’s around the corner. I do get that now. Thankful for calm when it comes.

  2. WOW WOW WOW is right!!! What a juxtaposition!! So happy for you! And 110 lbs?! Wow, I’m jealous 😉 I don’t think that as much as I work out now, I’d ever be there. I have hips…lol

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