“There is just one moon and one golden sun and a smile means friendship to everyone.” I know. The song bugs me too and just having read this much you’ll probably be singing it all day and curse me for it! But I’ve been thinking about what a very small world it truly is.
This will read like somewhat of an acceptance speech but I have some people to thank for making this relationship possible. First and foremost there is Facebook. I friended Martin on November 15, 2009. I believe his daughter informed him that some lady put a picture up of him in an Irish pub and described him as a “stand up guy”. I got to check out his friends and he mine. We got to see how each other interacted with said friends. We got to look into years of pictures (the good, the bad and the ugly), old posts and best of all we got to interact with each other on chat.
Lucky for me Martin picked up an iPhone and got a Gmail account so he could send me pics of where he was so he could share his world with me. Train rides, snowy hills, beautiful old buildings, smiles from his daughters, golfing buddies. I love you iPhone – thanks for being easy to use for a man who is somewhat challenged by technology. No matter where he or I are (waiting for plane rides, doctors appointments or in the occasional traffic jam), we can use our phones to stay in touch.
And while I’m on the sharing bit, a big, big thank you to YouTube. I don’t know how many hundreds of songs we have shared and listened to together and laughed about and discussed. But it brought us together even more.
Finally I have to give my biggest thanks to Skype. Not only do I get to hear him but I get to see him. He’s 6,000 miles away and I talk to and see him more than my sister who lives 4 miles away. And we don’t pay a dime for the pleasure. I wake up and ring him to say hello as he is heading to work. He rings me when he gets back to his hotel room after an appointment, orders some dinner and hangs out with me while I work. It is almost as if he is in the same room with me. At night we chat before bed with my head snuggled into my pillow and he puts me to sleep. It is so intimate and sweet. It is making the distance between us bearable. Other than a kiss and a hug we are able to share as if we were literally together physically. It is amazing.
Remember that scene from When Harry Met Sally where they are talking on the phone watching Casablanca telling each other good night? Yeah? This is better than that.
Last night he was saying how we will look back on this time in our relationship and be grateful for the ability to hold hands. We will appreciate being together for real THAT much more. For now, the green card is still an elusive golden ticket. Plane rides are becoming much more expensive as summer approaches. And there are moments when a half a world away truly feels so, so far. So I count my lucky stars that I live in the 21st century. I’m deeply indebted to Sergey Brin and Larry Page. To Chad Hurley and Steve Chen. That smiley faced Mark Zuckerberg, to Niklas Zennstrom and Janus Friis. And let me not forget Steve Jobs. You guys are filthy rich for a reason. You revolutionized my world. Made it smaller. And set a virtual stage where I played the role of a woman who falls in love with the man of her dreams.